Firmness Is A Must!

Tony and I Demonstrate Cub Scout Handshakephoto © 2010 Michael Spoula | more info (via: Wylio)

What should be firm and could leave a lasting impression if it isn’t? A handshake! A first impression can go a long way and a firm, confident handshake is a good place to start.  My Dad taught me how to shake. He explained that the goal was not to crush a person’s hand but to bring confidence to the introduction that will help him or her remember you, and show that you have enough respect for the person to bring your best. I’m reminded of this every time I shake a “limp noodle,” as my 11th Grade German teacher used to call it.  Mrs. N took the time to make sure her students knew the importance of a good handshake. Of course, we (meaning me) used it against her. She hated, and I mean hated, the “limp noodle.” So when she would greet me every morning I, being the smart aleck that I am, would let my hand go limp before shaking. Every time she would give an awesome squeal and then would smack me with the nearest notebook.

What does this have to do with dads? Well, over the years I have noticed the lack of a firm handshake in young adults and teens.  Is this something that is not being taught anymore? Is it because our lives have become so busy that we don’t have time to show our children this small, but important skill?  Or is it the rise in single parent homes and the lack of a male role model in some homes?  Is a firm handshake important to you?

I have already begun teaching my 4 year old son how to shake hands and how to introduce himself. He has picked it up and I’ve had the pleasure of witnessing him using this new skill.  It’s a small task when you think about it, but it’s one that will give confidence and respect to your child. How could that be a bad thing?

About the author:

Will, a native of Texas, lives in Minneapolis, MN with his wife and two boys (4 years and 2 years).  He works as a Project Manager for a technology company when not at home spending time with his family.  Will is currently learning to play guitar with his 4-year-old, and also enjoys trips to the Farmers’ Market on Saturday mornings, playing “Cars” with the boys and watching baseball.

He has recently started writing guest blog posts, but doesn’t have a blog of his own. However, Will spends a lot of time working on his wife’s blog, You can connect with Will on Twitter at @willbinMN.

About Tshaka Armstrong

Tshaka Armstrong is the husband to one awesome wife, dad to three awesome children. On any given day you may find him posting internet & tech family safety info here and on his personal blog, or chatting with his tweeps when he's not dadvocating here. Join in the conversation, drop a line, share a joke and join him in encouraging each other to be awesome!