7 ways to make game day victorious—even when your wife hates sports
A guy has to wonder what he’s gotten himself into when one month after he’s married, he takes his bride to a football game…and she brings a cookbook to read.
That’s when Rich and Kathy knew they would face challenges in their marriage. And 40 years later, they will tell you that, although the challenges have diminished, they are still hanging around.
Rich was raised on sports and to him, sports events brought family together. Kathy was raised in a home where her dad spent a lot of time watching sports, and to her, sports caused family division.
Sounds like a recipe for lots of fights, doesn’t it? How does a husband manage his love for his wife and his love for sports, without neglecting either one? How does a crazy-about-sports man keep a not-crazy-about-sports wife happy?
Rich offers these suggestions for handling the conflicts that arise from these two opposites:
- Make your wife #1. “I’m thankful for DVR!” laughs Rich. “She needs to know she is #1 on my love list and that I choose doing something with her over watching an important game in real time.” Before DVR? “I made some sacrifices,” he admits. But he found that when he made a sacrifice for Kathy, she in turn gladly sacrificed back by joining him in front of the TV for a game.
- Recognize personality differences. Rich gets energized by reading or relaxing in front of a game. Kathy by being with people. Understanding their differences helps them deal with conflicts.
- Make sports a family event. Rich started taking the kids to games when they were very young. This gave Mom time alone and Dad time with the kids. Besides making great family memories, he succeeded in raising 4 healthy sports fans.
- Make sports a social event. For Rich, having people over to watch a game was a win-win situation. Kathy, a very social person, loved having the people and Rich loved having a fan base.
- Plan ahead. Kathy has learned to ask ahead about when important games are when planning an event. Rich has learned to inform her when an important game is coming up if he thinks she might be planning something. Pre-planning can prevent conflicts.
- Look for compromises. For Rich, it sometimes means watching a game with the sound down when guests are over or if Kathy wants to talk. They also invested in a second TV for the office adjacent to the TV room; they can watch separate TVs and still be close enough to each other to have a conversation!
- Learn to give and take. “In any marriage, there will be things about your spouse that bug you,” says Rich. “You simply have to decide you will love and accept him/her anyway.”
- Keep a balance. Be intentional about balancing family/spouse time with TV sports time. There’s just no way around the fact that husbands will have to make some sacrifices to keep that balance.
With the ever-increasing opportunities to watch sports—cable, satellite, computer—it is literally possible to consume them 24/7. Because of that, Rich and Kathy still work at compromising and sacrificing to keep sports conflicts at a minimum. Their example is proof that it can be done!
As a coach’s wife for 27 years and a sports parent for 17, Janis Meredith writes a youth sports blog for sports parents to help them make sports a character building experience for their kids. Check out her blog jbmthinks.
I would just like to add to the sports commentary, I admit to not being in to sports, probably because my dad never shared any with me. I have been made to feel insecure because I am supposed to be in to them just because I am a guy. I used to irritate my exwife because though I am happy to sit there for the company I wasn’t that interested in the games and don’t really have a handle on the strategies, plays and positions.
continuously i used to read smaller articles which also clear their motive,
and that is also happening with this piece of writing which I am reading now.
Look into my blog … quick weight loss diet for women and men, jonathanvhmendez.tblog.Com,
generic cialis cost UV detection, 200 nm
atorvastatin online order atorvastatin buy lipitor 10mg for sale
cost ciprofloxacin 500mg – generic ethambutol 600mg augmentin tablet
baycip cost – order generic ciprofloxacin 1000mg buy generic clavulanate
flagyl 400mg over the counter – buy amoxicillin medication azithromycin cheap
ciprofloxacin 500 mg oral – order doryx sale buy erythromycin cheap
buy valacyclovir 500mg sale – cheap diltiazem 180mg order acyclovir 800mg generic
buy oral stromectol – order tetracycline 500mg pills tetracycline us
generic metronidazole 200mg – order oxytetracycline 250mg online cheap azithromycin 500mg tablet
acillin uk buy amoxicillin online cheap amoxil canada
lasix 40mg usa – captopril 25mg price buy generic captopril 25mg
metformin for sale online – buy ciprofloxacin 500mg pills lincocin 500mg oral
retrovir 300 mg over the counter – order allopurinol 300mg without prescription zyloprim 300mg canada
Your article helped me a lot, is there any more related content? Thanks!
clozapine 50mg cheap – pepcid buy online famotidine price
quetiapine 50mg tablet – order eskalith eskalith buy online
anafranil medication – buy tofranil 75mg for sale doxepin 25mg us
purchase hydroxyzine pill – sarafem 20mg uk amitriptyline 10mg us
Thank you for your sharing. I am worried that I lack creative ideas. It is your article that makes me full of hope. Thank you. But, I have a question, can you help me?
amoxil over the counter – cefadroxil cheap buy cipro 1000mg online
order augmentin generic – buy augmentin 1000mg generic order baycip online
buy cleocin generic – cheap suprax 200mg buy chloromycetin for sale
zithromax 500mg oral – order sumycin online cheap ciprofloxacin drug
ivermectin tablets for sale walmart – aczone ca cefaclor for sale online
albuterol inhaler – purchase fexofenadine pills buy theophylline 400mg pills
purchase clarinex – order ketotifen sale albuterol inhalator order online
medrol tablet – order generic azelastine order astelin 10ml nasal spray
buy glyburide without a prescription – order glucotrol 5mg pills order dapagliflozin 10mg generic
order repaglinide 2mg generic – repaglinide pills order empagliflozin online cheap
order glycomet generic – januvia 100mg price buy precose 25mg generic
terbinafine order – purchase fluconazole generic purchase griseofulvin
rybelsus 14mg cost – buy desmopressin generic purchase DDAVP spray
order nizoral 200mg generic – butenafine sale cost itraconazole
buy cheap generic famvir – buy zovirax 400mg online cheap order valaciclovir 500mg online
purchase digoxin pills – where can i buy lanoxin purchase furosemide online
how to get hydrochlorothiazide without a prescription – generic plendil 5mg buy zebeta 5mg for sale
metoprolol medication – order metoprolol without prescription buy adalat 10mg
buy generic nitroglycerin online – indapamide usa order valsartan sale
simvastatin british – fenofibrate neck atorvastatin end
crestor online fourth – rosuvastatin online troop caduet pills bright
viagra professional online ernest – super avana thousand levitra oral jelly online carriage
priligy bundle – aurogra thump cialis with dapoxetine hour
cenforce through – brand viagra fleet
brand cialis establish – zhewitra blossom penisole neighbourhood
cialis soft tabs former – cialis oral jelly online manage viagra oral jelly sirius
brand cialis rescue – forzest creature penisole seize
cialis soft tabs online twilight – levitra soft online stout viagra oral jelly trick